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Control...Such An Illusion

Trying to control someone else choice of words, actions or even thought process,for me, can be compared to a game of tug-a-war. You can dig your feet in, grab hold tight, pull with all your strength and still end up on the ground.

For me, my "ground" time is .........


~SIGH~.   Well , more times than I want to admit......But is a defined reality in my life.



*Control is just an illusion when it comes to other peoples actions and words*



The Lord spoke these to me several days ago and then had me sit on them.



Waiting has never really been one of my best assets in life.



But waited I did, until now.....



Jesus knows oh so well how my little "control" issues can and have gotten me into a pinch.


Of course I didn't see them as "control" issues. However they were and are. And by His grace I am still a work in process.


My illusions have come in many forms.


If I loved a person enough I could "change" them. ( that can make for bad relationship choices)


If I just do it myself because my way is right, their world will be a better place. ( Out of my love I have now enabled them for failure)


If I get angry at their choices I can force them into submission. ( WOW, can you say HUGE illusion??)


Now I am not talking about lending a helping hand, loving a person through a bad time, or expressing my feelings of anger, nor placing boundaries and accountability for your loved ones.


I'm talking about trying to control any and every situation the way I saw fit and deemed correct.


Our daddy God gives us all free will and He doesn't inter fer with that, so why would I think I could do such a thing?


Maybe it comes from being a single parent for most of my life, or maybe because I am a independent person, or maybe because I have such a huge heart for those in need I have taken on the burden of becoming their "Ms. Fix It".

( God didn't give me the title of "Ms Fix it", so why should I give it to myself? )
What ever the reasons, the reality is I can not control how another may walk, talk, act or live.

I have had to put my tug-a-war ropes down. ( more like box them up and store them away)


I have had to learn to love others through grace, mercy,forgiveness and with the eyes of Christ.


Regardless of my good intentions, playing tug-a-war isn't how we as the body of Christ can guide others to the fullness of the love of God.


He doesn't have a rope ready to pull us into submission. It's through his grace and his unfailing love that He shows himself.


The only "control" I have is the words I choose to speak,the actions I choose to take and the person I choose to be.


I choose to be more like Jesus.


So as my pruning and shaping continue, I encourage you all, take a look around you, do you see areas in your life were you have the tug-a-war ropes out or are you allowing Christ to lead you by His love, mercy and grace??


It is through prayer and exhibiting Christ love that our tug-a-wars and control issues in life change.


After all, it is love, not control that conquers all~




XoXo

Stacey



1 Corinthians 13:44 Love is patient, love is kind........

**** Repost From Shakin' The Foundation 2012****

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