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I Can Love Em'...But I Can't Save Em'

 Many times in life we have those who come into our lives only for a season.
A season of hope.....
A season of encouragement.....
A season of healing..........
And even a season of love.
Over the course of my life, I have learned that God will place certain people in my life for growth and change.

As a woman, we have been created to love, nurture and care for those we love, to push our own emotions to the side and stand for the ones we love and care for.
We have the " I want to save you from all life's pain" syndrome because I love you.
Well at least I know I do.
 That's just me......
It's how my heart functions.

However that part of me, the one who is willing to lay it all down for those I love, can cause myself pain and heart break.
Why is that you may ask?
It's not because I love them, support them and stand for them.....
It's because I allowed my heart to get so wrapped up in the natural that I tried to save them , heal them and restore them on my own.
 My own .......

A battle that can not be won by my own doing.......

And a lesson I have had to learn several times in my life.
"Let go and let God" is such a cliche' but a powerful truth.
I have learned it is when I do let go of my own efforts, step back and allow God to step in, the battles in their lives become victorious. 

My part in it all???
To love unconditionally, to pray for them and over them, to speak God's words into their lives, to be a shoulder to lean on, and to share my failures and victories in life. 
To be a light of encouragement in their darkest hour.....
To let Christ shine through me.
I have learned by sharing my failures, sorrows and downfalls in life, others are lifted up and given hope. They see real love and healing. 

Proverbs 13:12
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.

I will never let go with my heart........
I will continue to love em' through all life's trials. 
I will stand for them no matter the battle.
I will continue to reach out with open arms. 

I will however step out of my daddy God's way and let him do his work in them and through me....
His way.

I do believe that my trials in life have not gone in vain.
I would walk through every painful area of my life if it gives just one person hope in this life, for them to see the true love of God and all his mercy and grace.

I can love em'....But I can't save em'
Only our daddy God can!!



  1. Hi Stacey, again! Yup and amen! We can love them but we can't save them! So profound really. And also takes the pressure off. Its not our job to save, just love! Great post sweet friend
    God bless

  2. it was like you writing as me !
    Loved where you got to in this valuable i have pasted it into my prayer journal.
    Solid Gold !! Thanks.


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